- Never come to the first meeting smelling of alcohol or – gracious heaven! – drunk. Of course, you are in Minsk on holiday and you may feel you have every right to relax and enjoy. Alcohol addiction is for sure what all decent Belarusian ladies hate and fear of, so at the slightest suspicion that a man is a boozer, they will hurry to close the door on him forever. Almost every foreigner has heard about repulsive Eastern European alcoholism, so nobody can blame the ladies for such a behavior.
- Never tell the lady about your ex-wife/ex-girlfriend either in a negative or in a positive way. Well, if she asks, feel free to answer, but keep it as short as possible. A very detailed sad story about bad relationship experience is likely to give an impression that the man puts all the blame for the failure of their union on his ex, which may mean he is egoistic, unable to manage a relationship, lacks understanding, does not respect women and so on. If the man sings praises to his former partner to show that he is objective and respectful despite everything, the lady hears just one thing: “He is still not over her” and drives away any hopes that he is really ready for a new relationship. There is no good looking back, that’s it.
- Never forget that the most attractive man is the one who looks clean and tidy and smells good. Our ladies have the idea that foreign men take good care of themselves (unlike many Belarusian guys) and they will be extremely happy to see that it is true. Just be sure you have enough clean shirts with you and remember that it is perfectly OK if you feel nervous, but the lady must not smell it or see it on your clothes.
- Never behave as if you were in a shop. Of course, our ladies are real jewels, but you need to win them, not to buy them. Do not discuss with the lady other meetings, avoid saying something like “If I choose you after meeting all other girls, we will go on holiday together”, “If I take you to live with me in my country, what would you like to do?” Yes, you will have the initiative to go on with the relationship, or not to keep in touch with the lady, but she will make her decision about you, too. Yes, the lady knows you are meeting not only her, but she will not be extremely happy, if you gladly say it to her face. Our advice (however obvious and self-evident it may seem) is based on real events – and we hope nobody will ever slip on the same banana peel!
- There is no risk that someone will get lost in the city
- You do not have to stay together for much time in case you feel at once that you are not at all compatible
- You may be sure that a lady comes to get acquainted with you and not just to enjoy a meal or a drink in a lovely place.
- do not tell the ladies how many meetings you have or make comments about other women you have met here. Our ladies are well aware of the fact that if a man comes to Minsk, he normally has more than one meeting and they are OK with that. However, you should not bring up the topic, unless she asks you directly about it. (In this case you do not have to tell lies, of course, but try not to go into details, either)
- the better you look, the better impression you can produce 🙂 However, do not dress up especially for the occasion, as you should look natural and give a real image of yourself. The only advice is that your style should be neither too formal, nor too casual.
- do not bring any expensive gifts for the first meeting. If you want to make a pleasant surprise for the lady, choose a small box of chocolates or some flowers (importantly, an odd number!).
- If you have a lot of positive replies: you do not have to meet all the women who said “yes”. You will decide how many meetings you would like to have – and we will give you our comments on the interested ladies to make you choice easier. In any case, it is always better to have more positive answers initially: it may happen that for some reason a lady fails to come and you will want to meet someone else instead.
- If you have a low rate of positive answers: it is difficult to say for sure why girls answer “no”, as we do not require any explanation. Actually, it is quite normal: there are always positive and negative answers, since the ladies have different images of their future partner. If they say “no”, it does not necessarily mean something is wrong with you or your profile; maybe you are just not the type of man they are looking for. To eliminate the main possible reasons of negative answers, we normally recommend paying due attention to the adequate age difference, making photos of good quality, adding more lively and detailed information about you.
- organize the meeting with the lady
- meet the lady in reality
- establish communication, get know each other
- invite her to visit your place
- prepare the marriage documents
- live happy ever after!
Yes, it may be difficult to understand, but the social and cultural situation in Belarus makes our agency a “life saver” for many great ladies who were not lucky enough to find their Mr. Right here. And they do need much good luck to be with a good man! This can be explained by “quantity and quality” reasons.
Sad statistics: due to a lack of male population which becomes more pronounced with age, not all women have the chance to meet their better halves. Traditionally it led to a good deal of rivalry: women tried to do their best in every field: in love, at work and in the domestic life. As a result, most Belarusian ladies combine the best of modern and traditional values: they are hardworking and persistent in their studies and career, active in their daily life, while they are still devoted to their relationship or family and try to be feminine and beautiful for their partner. Sounds like a real treasure?
Yes, but like a diamond needs polishing, a real lady needs being respected, loved and appreciated. Unfortunately, not all Belarusian men can keep up with these simple requirements. The lack of male rivalry brought certain negative results: Belarusian men are quite often passive, unambitious and reluctant to enjoy life or to grow personally and professionally; they do not take proper care of their health and appearance, do not value their partners or wives etc. This is what makes many Belarusian women avoid unsatisfying or even destructive relationships with local men and look for love overseas.
As you can see, the gender imbalance in Belarus is very favorable for men who are a minority and therefore of great value. A normal guy with no mental or alcohol problems can easily be with a beauty with university degree and superior cooking skills. The ladies’ choice is by far more limited: it is quite hard to find an active and intelligent man who takes care of himself – and wants to create a family for life (instead of starting numerous relationships with new girls, which he may well afford). The search of the Mr. Right becomes even more complicated as the years go by: due to the tendency to get married early, all good family men at a certain point wear wedding rings and are treated like kings by their happy wives. So, what can the rest of our pretty Belarusian ladies do: wait for a miracle or try to be happy in love whatever it takes?
Sometimes, I see there are too many negative replies in your feedback table. I feel how frustrated you can be at the moment, but I ask you to listen to me for a moment and I’ll try to explain why it did happen so and what can be done to improve your profile and choice in order to get more positive replies next time. You can ask – I am ready to come from another part of the world to see her, why she denies me to have a cup of coffee and small talk? What does she loose meeting me?
First of all couple of words about the agency. We run our business for almost 20 years and I’m working here since 2004 and during last 14 years it was my aim to change the attitude of the ladies towards the meeting. We make them agree only if they may consider the profile that they receive as a potential match. we organise the meetings at our office, not in a fancy restaurant, we do not ask the men to bring expensive gifts in order to stimulate the desire of coming to the meetings. We are doing all possible that the lady comes to the meeting if she is really interested. That’s why if you have 10 meetings at the agency, there will be 10 girls, interested in you, 10 real chances to find the love, not just 10 coming for a free lunch.
So if you apply to another agency, that doesn’t have such a strict policy about the consent to the meeting, if you run into the agency, who “rewards” their ladies for coming, you’ll see completely another feedback list. But in that case maybe you will meet 10 ladies, that are closer to your ideal, but who can be absolutely not interested in you. What will be your choice?
So. Now to your profile. Everyday we deal with hundreds and hundreds of responses to mens’ profiles. And now I know almost everything why the ladies say yes and no to the profiles. 1. First of all – age. In our standart welcoming letter i mention that we do not recommend to select the ladies more than 15 years younger that you are. Actually, it’s average age difference, but it vary from profile to profile. Sometimes, some profiles with 20 years difference gain positive replies, sometimes we cannot find even the elder ladies that, saying “yes to a dress”
Why does it happen? First of all, I should say that Minsk/Belarus is not Phillipines, not Africa. Most of the ladies that you see at our pages, have university degree, many of them have good job here, run their own businesses, they are not starving, they are not desperate. Yes, we have less men than women in Belarus, that’s why they cannot find the husband here. And that’s why you come here, to find not just a girl, but educated, smart, good looking girl with normal family values. But 30 y.o lady with model look, good job and good education hardly will consider 50 y.o. divorced track driver from a small city, if he is not Brad Pitt. Same as in your country. But unlike with your country she can consider somebody 37-45 if he as we say is “standing firm on his feet” (has good job or own business), attractive to her and leads an interesting life and their wish to have a child is mutual. And it’s not a goldseeker, she considers somebody that can provide her the level of living at least not less than she has here. Why shouldn’t she?
Your profession, your education are important. In general, they look for somebody more or less of their level of education. Of course, there are exceptions, like one the couples that we have, where she was professor of linguistics, and he was butcher. But more probable that someone with university degree would consider someone who had some post-school education, at least with college or post graduate professional courses.
But the difference in age and social level it’s not all. They say, that man love with their eyes and the ladies – with their ears. It’s not 100% true. The lady should feel attraction to the photos you send. in general, the lady decides same as you: first upon photo: i like him or I do not like him. And only after that she starts to read the profile. Yes, it’s important that your photos are well-done. That they underline your personality, that they show you in the most effective way. If you are Brad Pitt – let she see it on a clear and quality photo. If not – maybe you are good cooker? Show her your kitchen and you working there. Are you good at sports, or you enjoy mountains every week-end – show it. You are good man for family – show you at your house welcoming your friends. If you are businessman – photo in nice costume will be good. If the lady receives photo where you are drinking big bottle of beer at the street or laying on the sofa in undershirt – she automatically comes to conclusion that you are good only in that kind of sport.
What else is important in the profile? Your previous family. If you have 5 kids from different mothers it’ll not be the pro for your lady. If you are not divorced, but separated – it’s a red flag for the lady, as she understand, that even if everything goes well, you will not be able to marry her and to bring her to your country in a foreseeable future. Your wish to have child / not to have child – it should be mutual. If you don’t want anymore to have children and she is longing for it, she will say no even if your difference in age will be 5 years. And vise versa. She can say no, if you want to become a father and she doesn’t plan it anymore.
Sometimes country is important. The citizens of well-to-do countries are more popular than the citizens of places with unstable economy (like in many places of Southern America). Citizens of close to Belarus country are more”popular” than citizens of Australia and New Zealand. Taller candidates are more popular than short language abilities are important and so on.
There are some things that you cannot change anyway: for example your height / your weight / country / quantity of children etc. But there are things you can change to make your profile more attractive. you can think about interesting photos, good description of your education and profession, of your personal interests, dreams and desires.
I do not recommend you to lie anyway. If you lie about your children – you will come to the meeting, pay for it, but if it’s unacceptable for the lady, she will refuse to keep on communication the day she knows about it.
I hear almost everyday, I select with 30 years difference because I want to have a child. But can you answer my question: Why the lady should even consider somebody 30 years older to bring him a child? How you can attract her attention? What you can bring to her life that she will decide to date somebody older than her parents? If she wants to have a child so much, it’s much more clever from her side to get pregnant from a younger man, it’s healthier , anyway the father will not be at a high school graduation.
And if you do have answer to question, why she should like you, please show it into your profile. Make better photos. write better description of your character and hobbies and place where you live. If you are over sixty, but you consider yourself to be young in soul – show it. Or, maybe it’ll be better to find the lady at the end of her forties, also young and active – and she will be much better companion for your active and happy life than somebody at 35 so desperate and unpopular that cannot find anybody younger
My video seems to be very long. And i am sure, you are not happy with what I am saying. Because the other agencies offer you anybody, they assure you that you can get everything, just pay money. And I want to be sincere with you. I want to help you to find happy relationship for many years.
Ok now you can estimate why the feedback was not so successful. You can always ask the agency how you can improve your profile / choice in order to raisen the positive feedback rate. By the way, good feedback rate is not 100%, it starts at 40 %, for the best profiles we have like 80% of positive replies. Why is it so? Because some ladies prefer bald guys, some ladies like firefighters, blondes/brunetts, ski-lovers and so on. So twice in 20 years we had like. 100% Have a nice day, have a nice quality profile, have a nice feedback from the ladies.