Choosing the ladies

Sometimes men who want to use our service ask us to choose some good and serious girls for them to meet. Well, this request actually does not make much sense: if we considered some ladies to be dishonest and not serious, we would not work with them at all. If we have some grounded complaints about a lady or notice inadequate behavior from her side, we delete her profile from our database. So, all the ladies you can see on our website are good in our eyes – but different, that is why we cannot predict who will be the perfect match for you. Every our client says he wants to meet a nice and sweet girl, nobody really wants to get acquainted with a cold and unfriendly lady, but this does not mean they all will fall in love with the same lady. Since beside these really important, but very general, characteristics, there is a physical attraction and a lot of traits of character that make a personality. Taking all these into account, a conclusion about the compatibility can be drawn, but it is only you who can make it: who knows better than yourself what suits you? From our professional point of view, we recommend you choosing 10-20 ladies on your own. For your convenience, you can filter all the profiles on our website by various important criteria: age, height, language skills, presence/absence of children, etc…Then:
  1. If you have a lot of positive replies: you do not have to meet all the women who said “yes”. You will decide how many meetings you would like to have – and we will give you our comments on the interested ladies to make you choice easier. In any case, it is always better to have more positive answers initially: it may happen that for some reason a lady fails to come and you will want to meet someone else instead.
  2. If you have a low rate of positive answers: it is difficult to say for sure why girls answer “no”, as we do not require any explanation. Actually, it is quite normal: there are always positive and negative answers, since the ladies have different images of their future partner. If they say “no”, it does not necessarily mean something is wrong with you or your profile; maybe you are just not the type of man they are looking for. To eliminate the main possible reasons of negative answers, we normally recommend paying due attention to the adequate age difference, making photos of good quality, adding more lively and detailed information about you.
Having seen your choice, we will have some idea about the type of woman you are looking for, which will allow us to make reasonable suggestions about other ladies who can suit your criteria and be interested in you. Finding your real soul mate is a complicated process, where luck has a role to play. Also, the correct behavior is what helps to succeed: even if you meet a girl who can be compatible with you, you will need to build up a sound communication and then a relationship, which requires an adequate attitude to many things. We would be glad to assist you with our advice to make the whole thing more efficient and to help you overcome possible cultural differences, so that your story has a happy end.

What you can gain from marriage agency?

Let’s decide first the goal. What’s your aim when you visit the page of marriage agency? If your aim is to get acquainted with real person who can be possible candidate to create happy family, then you have found the right agency. If your aim is just chatting or amusement would you be so kind to click the cross in  top right corner of the page? General goal can be divided into several stages.
  1. organize the meeting with the lady
  2. meet the lady in reality
  3. establish communication, get know each other
  4. invite her to visit your place
  5. prepare the marriage documents
  6. live happy ever after!
What is the first idea, if you decide to get acquainted with Russian (Belarusian, Ukrainian) lady? Find the website and write her? But first you should somehow filter fake profiles, “falling in love with you” from the first sentences. Ask her to skype in order to see that she is real? It’s a pity, but fake skype models are also widespread. But ok, you have found the real lady, involved her into communication, and decide to visit her in her city. At least you meet the lady in person and you can feel if there is something between you. But it’s really time consuming and rather expensive. Because one lady will be in one city, the other in the other… Nobody knows how many meetings you will need until you find your match. What does the marriage agency offer? We can help you to make first 2 steps easy and less expensive. You select the ladies on the website, we send them your profile, find out who is interested to get acquainted with you and then organize for you up to 10 meetings within one week-end. This will really help to overcome 2 most time/money consuming stages and you will meet up to 10 beautiful within 1 trip to Belarus. Isn’t it amazing? Moreover, we organize the meetings like no any other agency does.  How?  I’ll tell you later.

Why are Belarusian women looking for love abroad?

Many men who come to our agency are sincerely surprised: “How on earth can it be that such good-looking well-educated ladies are single? Each of them must have a queue of Belarusian men dying for her love! Why are they looking for a man from abroad then? Why are they ready to make such enormous efforts: to leave their country and start a totally different page of their lives far away from sweet home?”
Yes, it may be difficult to understand, but the social and cultural situation in Belarus makes our agency a “life saver” for many great ladies who were not lucky enough to find their Mr. Right here. And they do need much good luck to be with a good man! This can be explained by “quantity and quality” reasons.
Sad statistics: due to a lack of male population which becomes more pronounced with age, not all women have the chance to meet their better halves. Traditionally it led to a good deal of rivalry: women tried to do their best in every field: in love, at work and in the domestic life. As a result, most Belarusian ladies combine the best of modern and traditional values: they are hardworking and persistent in their studies and career, active in their daily life, while they are still devoted to their relationship or family and try to be feminine and beautiful for their partner. Sounds like a real treasure?
Yes, but like a diamond needs polishing, a real lady needs being respected, loved and appreciated. Unfortunately, not all Belarusian men can keep up with these simple requirements. The lack of male rivalry brought certain negative results: Belarusian men are quite often passive, unambitious and reluctant to enjoy life or to grow personally and professionally; they do not take proper care of their health and appearance, do not value their partners or wives etc. This is what makes many Belarusian women avoid unsatisfying or even destructive relationships with local men and look for love overseas.
As you can see, the gender imbalance in Belarus is very favorable for men who are a minority and therefore of great value. A normal guy with no mental or alcohol problems can easily be with a beauty with university degree and superior cooking skills. The ladies’ choice is by far more limited: it is quite hard to find an active and intelligent man who takes care of himself – and wants to create a family for life (instead of starting numerous relationships with new girls, which he may well afford). The search of the Mr. Right becomes even more complicated as the years go by: due to the tendency to get married early, all good family men at a certain point wear wedding rings and are treated like kings by their happy wives. So, what can the rest of our pretty Belarusian ladies do: wait for a miracle or try to be happy in love whatever it takes?

What does it mean, when they say NO

This video was created as a reply to the questions of our clients. You can listen to or read the tapescript below.

Sometimes, I see there are too many negative replies in your feedback table. I feel how frustrated you can be at the moment, but I ask you to listen to me for a moment and I’ll try to explain why it did happen so and what can be done to improve your profile and choice in order to get more positive replies next time. You can ask – I am ready to come from another part of the world to see her, why she denies me to have a cup of coffee and small talk? What does she loose meeting me?

First of all couple of words about the agency. We run our business for almost 20 years and I’m working here since 2004 and during last 14 years it was my aim to change the attitude of the ladies towards the meeting. We make them agree only if they may consider the profile that they receive as a potential match. we organise the meetings at our office, not in a fancy restaurant, we do not ask the men to bring expensive gifts in order to stimulate the desire of coming to the meetings. We are doing all possible that the lady comes to the meeting if she is really interested. That’s why if you have 10 meetings at the agency, there will be 10 girls, interested in you, 10 real chances to find the love, not just 10 coming for a free lunch.

So if you apply to another agency, that doesn’t have such a strict policy about the consent to the meeting, if you run into the agency, who “rewards” their ladies for coming, you’ll see completely another feedback list. But in that case maybe you will meet 10 ladies, that are closer to your ideal, but who can be absolutely not interested in you. What will be your choice?

So. Now to your profile. Everyday we deal with hundreds and hundreds of responses to mens’ profiles. And now I know almost everything why the ladies say yes and no to the profiles. 1. First of all – age. In our standart welcoming letter i mention that we do not recommend to select the ladies more than 15 years younger that you are. Actually, it’s average age difference, but it vary from profile to profile. Sometimes, some profiles with 20 years difference gain positive replies, sometimes we cannot find even the elder ladies that, saying “yes to a dress”

Why does it happen? First of all, I should say that Minsk/Belarus is not Phillipines, not Africa. Most of the ladies that you see at our pages, have university degree, many of them have good job here, run their own businesses, they are not starving, they are not desperate. Yes, we have less men than women in Belarus, that’s why they cannot find the husband here. And that’s why you come here, to find not just a girl, but educated, smart, good looking girl with normal family values. But 30 y.o lady with model look, good job and good education hardly will consider 50 y.o. divorced track driver from a small city, if he is not Brad Pitt. Same as in your country. But unlike with your country she can consider somebody 37-45 if he as we say is “standing firm on his feet” (has good job or own business), attractive to her and leads an interesting life and their wish to have a child is mutual. And it’s not a goldseeker, she considers somebody that can provide her the level of living at least not less than she has here. Why shouldn’t she?

Your profession, your education are important. In general, they look for somebody more or less of their level of education. Of course, there are exceptions, like one the couples that we have, where she was professor of linguistics, and he was butcher. But more probable that someone with university degree would consider someone who had some post-school education, at least with college or post graduate professional courses.

But the difference in age and social level it’s not all. They say, that man love with their eyes and the ladies – with their ears. It’s not 100% true. The lady should feel attraction to the photos you send. in general, the lady decides same as you: first upon photo: i like him or I do not like him. And only after that she starts to read the profile. Yes, it’s important that your photos are well-done. That they underline your personality, that they show you in the most effective way. If you are Brad Pitt – let she see it on a clear and quality photo. If not – maybe you are good cooker? Show her your kitchen and you working there. Are you good at sports, or you enjoy mountains every week-end – show it. You are good man for family – show you at your house welcoming your friends. If you are businessman – photo in nice costume will be good. If the lady receives photo where you are drinking big bottle of beer at the street or laying on the sofa in undershirt – she automatically comes to conclusion that you are good only in that kind of sport.

What else is important in the profile? Your previous family. If you have 5 kids from different mothers it’ll not be the pro for your lady. If you are not divorced, but separated – it’s a red flag for the lady, as she understand, that even if everything goes well, you will not be able to marry her and to bring her to your country in a foreseeable future. Your wish to have child / not to have child – it should be mutual. If you don’t want anymore to have children and she is longing for it, she will say no even if your difference in age will be 5 years. And vise versa. She can say no, if you want to become a father and she doesn’t plan it anymore.

Sometimes country is important. The citizens of well-to-do countries are more popular than the citizens of places with unstable economy (like in many places of Southern America). Citizens of close to Belarus country are more”popular” than citizens of Australia and New Zealand. Taller candidates are more popular than short language abilities are important and so on.

There are some things that you cannot change anyway: for example your height / your weight / country / quantity of children etc. But there are things you can change to make your profile more attractive. you can think about interesting photos, good description of your education and profession, of your personal interests, dreams and desires.

I do not recommend you to lie anyway. If you lie about your children – you will come to the meeting, pay for it, but if it’s unacceptable for the lady, she will refuse to keep on communication the day she knows about it.

I hear almost everyday, I select with 30 years difference because I want to have a child. But can you answer my question: Why the lady should even consider somebody 30 years older to bring him a child? How you can attract her attention? What you can bring to her life that she will decide to date somebody older than her parents? If she wants to have a child so much, it’s much more clever from her side to get pregnant from a younger man, it’s healthier , anyway the father will not be at a high school graduation.

And if you do have answer to question, why she should like you, please show it into your profile. Make better photos. write better description of your character and hobbies and place where you live. If you are over sixty, but you consider yourself to be young in soul – show it. Or, maybe it’ll be better to find the lady at the end of her forties, also young and active – and she will be much better companion for your active and happy life than somebody at 35 so desperate and unpopular that cannot find anybody younger

My video seems to be very long. And i am sure, you are not happy with what I am saying. Because the other agencies offer you anybody, they assure you that you can get everything, just pay money. And I want to be sincere with you. I want to help you to find happy relationship for many years.

Ok now you can estimate why the feedback was not so successful. You can always ask the agency how you can improve your profile / choice in order to raisen the positive feedback rate. By the way, good feedback rate is not 100%, it starts at 40 %, for the best profiles we have like 80% of positive replies. Why is it so? Because some ladies prefer bald guys, some ladies like firefighters, blondes/brunetts, ski-lovers and so on. So twice in 20 years we had like. 100% Have a nice day, have a nice quality profile, have a nice feedback from the ladies.

first meeting then correspondence vs. correspondence then real meeting

Of course when there is a distance it is not always easy. Maybe one should correspond in advance? As for you question, it is quite difficult to answer it, because it can be very individual. On the one hand, the idea to get to know a lady and to try to establish some communication before meeting each other seems attractive, because in this case you have the impression that you are meetint not a stranger, but a person that you know. On the other hand, the problem is that this impression is very likely to be false, because you can get a more or less truthfull impression of a person only if you write each other really long and and detailed letters, or communicate very often via skype. In practice, however, it often results in casual chatting about nothing, something like: “How are you today?” – “I am fine, but have had a tiring day, let’s speak another time” It is not the communication that can you feel what kind of person each of you are, if you are compatible etc. I would say, correspondence can be really successful only if both persons agree that they want to communicate first, if they are ready to put some effort to reveal each other through letters. Also, there really must be a kind of talent to write such letters, some of the ladies actually say at times something like: “Yes, I am interested to communicate with this man and I would really love to exchange letters with him, but I have never communicated in such a way, I am not sure what should I write etc” Other ladies who have had the experience of speaking with men on Internet on Skype or via email – may have got bad results: like getting to know men who just chat, but will never get to anything more serious. That’s why they have been disappointed in this way and don’t want to lose their time on somebody whom they have never seen and probably will never see. Ther prefer a personal meeting first, and then, in case there is initial interest, to develop it by Internet communication. Of course, there are also ladies, who are ready to correspond and even those who would prefer correspondence before the meeting (the latter is really an absolute minority, though) Our opinion is that a personal meeting followed with intensive Internet communication is the best solution, but again, it can be different for different people, so we leave it for everybody to decide what is better.

How to write introduction letter

First of all – visit our Belarus Girls gallery and select the ladies you like. Make your list longer – better 10 or 20 ladies. Ready? It’s time to introduce you to Belarus girls! You send us standard self-introduction letter and our marriage agency will forward it to all the belarus women from your list. >Who you are? Start your introduction letter with a short description of your person: your name, age, where do you live etc. This information should be lively, but not very long, 2 or 3 sentences are enough. > Photos Please include a pair of good photos in your mail. One photo is worth 1000 of words. It’s really so. On first step your success depends on these photos on 70% – obviously, it should be your best photo. Please choose your photo properly. The photos should be clear, at least 1 face-photo and 1 full-length portrait. You should smile or at least look friendly there. >Something personal about you and your life. What is your profession? How do you spend your free-time? Do you have the goal in life? >Whom are you looking for? (it’s necessary for agency, we don’t forward it to the lady, maybe, we’ll recommend you somebody) What are the most important characteristics of the lady? For example: from 29 to 36, slim and blond, without children. Our application form to belarus marriage agency       will help you to send all necessary information for your profile

How to get acquainted with all these Belarus girls?

  First of all you should select some ladies from our gallery of Belarussian ladies . We recommend you to make a list longer – not 1 or 2, but 10 or 20. Then you send us this list along with your good photos and self-introduction. We’ll forward your information to all ladies from you list and ask them, if they are interested to meet you in Minsk. Then you can buy tickets. When you know the exact date of you arrival, we’ll issue an invitation letter for tourist visa. You can obtain tourist visa either in Byelorussian consulate in your country or at the airport Minsk International. We try to organize all the meetings within first days, in order that you have time to meet the ladies that you liked for the second and third time. 1 week is enough, 2 weeks – perfect. Usually we suggest age difference not more than 15 years. There are ladies, which accept bigger age difference, but is it really good for a happy family? If you have any further questions, do not hesitate to ask.